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happy birthday, hubby..

 … Got this from Ruthie. I can attest to everything's written here. I hope I find the strength to act/heed on these advises. But one thing's for sure, it takes TIME and experience to become stronger...

The greatest advise

Don't date because you are desperate.
Don't marry because you are miserable.
Don't have kids because you think your genes are superior.
Don't philander because you think you are irresistible.

Don't associate with people you can't trust.
Don't cheat. Don't lie. Don't pretend.
Don't dictate because you are smarter.
Don't demand because you are stronger.

Don't sleep around because you think you are old enough and know better.
Don't hurt your kids because loving them is harder.
Don't sell yourself, your family, or your ideals. Don't stagnate.!

Don't regress.
Don't live in the past. Time can't bring anything or anyone back.
Don't put your life on hold for possibly Mr/Mrs Right.
Don't throw your life away on absolutely Mr Wrong because your
biological clock is ticking.

Learn a new skill.
Find a new friend.
Start a new career.
Sometimes, there is no race to be won.
Only a price to be paid for some of life's more hasty decisions.

To terminate your loneliness, reach out to the homeless.
To feed your nurturing instincts, care for the needy.
To fulfill your parenting fantasies, get a puppy.
Don't bring another life into this world for all the wrong reasons.

To make yourself happy, pursue your passions and be the best of what you can be.
Simplify your life.
Take away the clutter.
Get rid of destructive elements: abusive friends, nasty habits, and dangerous liaisons.
Don't abandon your responsibilities but don't overdose on duty.

Don't live life recklessly without thought and feeling for your family.
Be true to yourself.
Don't commit when you are not ready.
Don't keep others waiting needlessly.

Go on that trip. Don't postpone it.
Say those words. Don't let the moment pass.
Do what you have to, even at society's scorn.

Write poetry.
Love Deeply.
Walk barefoot.
Dance with wild abandon.
Cry at the movies.

Take care of yourself. Don't wait for someone to take care of you.
You light up your life.
You drive yourself to your destination.
No one completes you - except YOU.

It is true that life does not get easier with age.
It only gets more challenging.
Don't be afraid. Don't lose your capacity to love.
Pursue your passions.

Live your dreams.
Don't lose faith in your God.
Don't grow old. Just grow YOU!

When you give someone your time, you are giving them a portion of your life that you'll never get back.
Your time is your life. That is why the greatest gift you can give someone is your time.
Relationships take time and effort, and the best way to spell love is
T-I-M-E because the essence of love is not what we think or do or provide for others, but how much we give of ourselves.

-- Rick Warren, The Purpose Driven Life

april 4 09
saturday - megamall

first saturday off from school. wow, sarap ng feeling!!!

am pretty excited of the "two-months time off" commonly called as vacation, summer, er, chillax... and of course A LOT of bonding times with the kids and hubby.

lemme label my first saturday as "priceless". why? nothing beats doing "your firsts" with love ones. *dont be too green* i get to have it with hubby and our kiddos. it's a movie date slash pig-out with dessert...

i did my morning routine with ruthie dear @ FF. met hubby & kids at the lounge past 11am. we kick-off to the nearest food chain, mcdonalds, and grabbed happy meals for the kids (insert: i really dont know what's with mcdo n jbee, kids were extremely delighted upon seeing 'em. was thinking that maybe they're some kind of a "mage" that kids cant get over with) we packed some goodies for the movie house. lo and behold, young enthusiasts were building the house full.

we watched monsters vs aliens. not to mention the synchronized oohs and aahs of the kids inside the movie house. presumingly, they've enjoyed it (including me & hubby). kids were really growing too fast. before they get to sleep in between scenes, but now, they'd share with you their giggles, laughters and would even tell you the story over and over and over again.  

after the movie, we went strolling, grabbed some stuff. and had an added treat - pigged out on bake and churn for their ice cream cake. it's a small stall along building A, very accessible. and it tastes soooo good. we sure did enjoy this sweet treat. pics posted below :)

mommie and kiddos

enjoyin their slices

what did mom says about "sharing food"?

whew... it may be tiring though, but we really had a great time together. Saturday is a blast. they're my greatest outlet, one that gets me out of this insane, cruel world. and im so thankful of having em.

*we also had a blissful Sunday. thanks to jasmin, ehm and moniq for the visit. it's so nice seeing our kids play with their cousin, moniq. really enjoyed the night, though bitin :)

 

My Challenge: four pillars (sport, strength, health, shape)

got in. work it out. no buts, no ifs. stay motivated. one year and that's it!

good luck! reality thus bites...

"a strong mind starts with a fit body"

An English professor wrote the words, "woman without her man is a savage" on the blackboard and directed his students to punctuate it correctly.

The men wrote: "Woman, without her man, is a savage."

The women wrote:

"Woman: Without her, man is a savage." 
 

 

 

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almost forgot to post this entry...

It's never the tears that measure the pain
Sometimes it’s the smile that we fake..
... at times when all you wanted to do is cry and just be miserable
... throw things as if you’re in a fit

Time will come when I ...
... won’t even remember your name
... won’t want to hear the sweetest voice that can lull me to sleep
... won’t want to touch the face that’s like an angel's
... won’t want to know the thoughts that goes around that pretty head
... won’t ever hear my heart beating tirelessly for you

Insane mumblings of my broken heart ... 




* from someone who's mending a broken heart *

 

 

i havent been in this page for quite sometime. well, i guess one of the reasons could be an added crib to update and visit with (yeah, multiply and there's LJ). since the update, this crib became too slow to comprehend. ive moved pictures to multiply, thinking that it would be a better host for it. but it doesnt mean ive left spaces. i'll never do that. besides, if not with spaces, i wouldn't be "in" the world of blogging.

 

ive made alot of friends with spaces. it even opened doors to new blog hosts and helped me learn customization and understand html codes. there was even a time, wherein i post entries almost everyday and change lay-outs. for me, its an outlet. ive always wanted to share my thoughts, my feelings, everything in my life and family.

 

but after sometime, ive stopped. and its not only with spaces. even with my other cribs. i had to focus on something else and it left me with less time to visit and update blogs. friends even stopped from visiting. maybe they thought that i had left. i know, its sad. but that's okay. youve got to learn to let go of things, right. well, my cribs are within exemption.

 

and now that we've got our new pc at home with dsl conxn. i just hope i get to update my cribs every now and then. at least i get to maintain them....

 

long-time-no-see, my crib... :P

 

and it has always been so nice visitin' old mem'ries.

i love you daddy, marco and jadeine

thank you dear lord for giving me the love of my life

 

 

 

 

 

 

When in Doubt, Communicate!

You may remember being told as a child, "Keep quiet!" "Children should be seen, not heard," and "You talk too much." You were a "good" kid if you kept quiet. However, being quiet when you are little causes big problems later in life.

As an adult, you may have been punished for communicating. For example, if you admit you committed a crime and are sorry about it, no one cares. You still go to jail. If you honestly tell your spouse you are thinking about an affair, your marriage suffers if your spouse is not very understanding. If you tell someone you feel a little crazy, who knows what might happen. So you learn to keep your mouth shut.

However, businesses fail when managers do not talk to employees or employees do not talk to customers. Everyone mistakenly believes telepathy is working. "I thought you knew I was unhappy with your performance." "You should have known I was overworked."

Marriages are ruined by poor communication. Rather than openly discuss sex, money, body problems or whatever, couples hint about their concerns or simply say nothing. But without support and understanding from your primary teammate, you do not go as far. In fact, a bad marriage can ruin everything in your life. Both parties in a successful marriage are able to give and receive communication from their spouse on any subject.

Life is miserable if you have no one to openly communicate with. Friendships are based on communication. The lack of friends or a spouse to communicate with often leads to mental problems.

So the first communication skill you need is to get out there and talk.

Unfortunately, on some topics, you’ve learned to watch what you say, to keep it under your hat, to zip it up.

"So that is the basic lesson that anybody learns in this universe. They learn to keep their mouth shut, and it’s the wrong lesson. When in doubt, talk. When in doubt, communicate." — L. Ron Hubbard

Whenever you have doubts about something, COMMUNICATE! Talk, talk, talk until the problem resolves. When you feel stress, disagreement or resistance between you and someone near you, the wrong thing to do is ignore the problem. Instead, start communicating.

When you know you should say something, say it! For example, an employee knows another employee is embezzling money and so says something to the employee and/or boss. A doctor knows he must talk to a about the patient’s rude behavior to the office staff. An employer knows she must discuss poor performance issues with some employees.

Take the bull by the horns. Move ahead in life. Spit it out.

If you’re worried about the consequences of saying something, you can ask first. Examples:

"Lisa, I want to say something about your driving to help keep you out of accidents, but I don’t want to upset you. Can I tell you what I think or should I keep my mouth shut?"

"Boss, should I tell you if I think you are giving me bad advice?"

"John, our marriage means so much to me I don’t want to say anything that would jeopardize it. But I have done something wrong and I’m sorry I did it. I think it would be good for our relationship if I told you. Don’t you think it’s best if we are 100% honest with each other?"

"Can you listen to something unfortunate I have to say and remain calm? Are you ready?"

In the long run, you are always better off by communicating. Take responsibility and talk. Staying silent solves nothing.

 

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Thank God for the month of MAY!!!

 

This month is entirely for my Dad, Hubby, Mom and Jadeine.

Next month it'll be Marco's.

 

Thanks for giving me Hubby who's always there beside me

for an understanding and supportive family

for the people whom ive shared friendship with

and for this crib whom ive obviously missed blogging at.

 

thank you for the hectic May...

 

 

 

 

The People.Net team whom Ive shared friendships with...

 

Taken at the 25th floor pantry

L-R: Edge, Casty, Bobby, Jun, Marquee, Glezel, Shiela, Divine, Polly

nakakatuwa coz ive had friends who kept on asking me (aside from juankastila) "bat galit na galit ung post sa blog mo?"

i was like, "huh, may pinost ba ako dun?" oh yeah, i remember. the raging mad entry and ass kissers. 
oo galit ako nun..
pero hindi ko sasabihin kung kanino.. sikretong malupit namin un ni hubby.. ahehehe

bakit kanyo? naku, baka hindi magkasya ang buong entry ko sa blog na to..
and i didnt care if ive tagged it as public.

isipin nio na lang ang gusto ninyong isipin
besides, ako lang naman at si hubby ang nakakaalam ng totoo...
at hindi magiging kabawasan un para sa'kin. kaya nga may blog eh, kc eto ang nagiging outlet mo, instead of becoming mad and think bad, ibuhos mo na lang sa blog.
kahit murahin ko pa ang mga bw@k%&$*ng un...

naiirita kc ako with the way the story goes. and yeah, life's not fair. but it will entirely depend on the person. looking at the bright side of things, siguro mas maganda kung i-charge na lang natin ito as an experience. tama ba, hubby?!? ikaw nag turo sakin nun eh.

at least you know who your real friends are and with whom to trust.

anyhoo, everyone is entitled to his/her own opinion. with the way i see it, i have my own with the same respect that i give for other people's opinion. some people lang doesnt know how to understand other's perspectives. and that's a different story.

for now,

i dont have to explain why i did my previous post.
i dont have to let people know who's involved.
i dont have to reiterate more...

there's one thing i believe at, in life there's karma. and someday it'll softly kill you..

now i cant laugh about it. "but my pity goes to you".

bato bato sa langit ang tamaan, PANGIT...
*lol*